Essential Factors to Consider When Choosing a Family for Your Adopted Child

January 25, 2024 | 5 min read

Deciding to create an adoption plan for your child is an incredibly emotional and challenging journey. We understand the weight of this decision and want to assure you that the choice to place your child for adoption is yours alone. You have the power to select a family that shares your values and dreams for your child's future.

We recognize that the adoption process can feel overwhelming, which is why our blog post is here to support you. Our goal is to provide you with a compassionate and comprehensive understanding of adoption types and help you navigate the factors to consider when choosing an adoptive family. You're not alone in this journey, and we're here to help every step of the way.

Choosing an adoptive family is a big decision! Check out this blog from @NEChildrensHome that highlights key factors to consider when making this important choice:

Understanding Different Adoption Types

There are three types of adoption: open, semi-open, and closed.

Open adoption allows for maintaining a relationship with the adoptive family and your child. This can include get-togethers, phone calls, and emails. Birth parents have the opportunity to actively participate in their child's life and stay informed about ongoing matters, and the child can know their birth parents and understand their background and history.

Semi-open adoption allows for limited contact with the adoptive family, usually via an intermediary, such as an adoption agency. Updates can be shared, but in-person visits and direct communication may be limited. This type of adoption can provide a degree of privacy and boundaries while still retaining some connection.

Closed adoption involves no contact after the adoption is finalized. This means that the birth parent(s) and the adoptive family have no relationship after the adoption. It is essential to remember that choosing a closed adoption does not mean that you will never know what happens to your child. You can receive updates through the adoption agency without direct communication.

Choosing the ideal adoption type for your situation is critical. The following questions can help you understand which type of adoption is best for you and your family.

  • How important is it for you to maintain a relationship with your child and the adoptive family?
  • How much contact do you wish to have with your child and the adoptive family?
  • How important is it for your child to know their birth family and have access to medical history?

When selecting an adoptive family, it is crucial to consider the values and aspirations you have for your child's future. Take time to list what you imagine for your child, both short and long-term. Consider the type of family that aligns with those values and aspirations.

Want to find the ideal adoptive family for your child? @NEChildrensHome’s blog delves into important factors like age, health, and parenting style to help you make the right decision. Learn more:

Establishing Core Values and Aspirations for Your Child

When it comes to your child's future, one thing you should remember is setting core values and dreams. Of course, practical matters like financial stability and home environment matter, but don't overlook the intangible qualities that will shape their well-being and identity.

Ask yourself, what kind of life do you want for your child? What values and principles do you want to instill in them? Do you want them to excel academically, be creative, curious, kind, empathetic, or engage in community service, environmentalism, or social justice? What kind of hobbies or activities do you want them to explore? Having a clear vision of their future will help find families that share these aspirations.

Also, don't forget to consider their background and cultural heritage. Do you want them to stay connected with their birth culture, or do you prefer a more blended lifestyle? Think about the importance of honoring your child's roots and how prospective families embrace cultural diversity.

Choosing an Adoptive Family: Factors to Consider

Picking an adoptive family is a big decision that needs careful research and thinking. In this section, we'll go over some key factors to look into when choosing a family for adoption.

Age/Relationship History: Some birth parents may have preferences for an adoptive family based on age or specific relationship background. Whether you're looking for a long-term couple or a single parent, it's important to openly communicate your preferences with the adoption professional assisting you.

Health Status: The health status of potential adoptive parents is an important factor to consider. You want to ensure that the adoptive parents are physically and mentally fit to raise a child.

Number of Siblings: When deciding on an adoptive family, it's important to think about what you're looking for in terms of siblings for your child. Some birth parents may prefer their child to be the only one in the adoptive family, while others may want their child to have brothers and sisters. Don't hesitate to share your preferences with the adoption professional and have an open discussion to find the right family for your child's future.

Preferred Post-Adoption Communication: Some birth parents prefer open adoption, which allows them to remain in contact with the adoptive family and their child. Others may prefer closed adoption, which means that no communication occurs after the adoption.

Educational Background: Some birth parents may prefer that parents with higher education or specific qualifications raise their child. If this is important to you, you must share this with the adoption professional.

Parenting Style: When considering adoptive parents for your child, it's important to identify the parenting style that aligns with your values and aspirations. By understanding their approach, you can determine if they are the right fit for your child's upbringing. Make sure to reflect on the parenting style you desire and find a family that shares your vision for your child's future.

Ethnicity/Cultural background: It's important to consider the ethnicity and cultural background of the adoptive parents. Some birth parents may have a preference for adoptive parents who share the same ethnic or cultural background as the child, while others may not view it as a concern.

When choosing a family, it is crucial to approach the decision with an open mind and carefully consider all factors. By discussing your preferences with the adoption professional, you can collaborate in finding the ideal family for your child.

The process of choosing the right adoptive family for your child involves careful consideration of various factors. It is crucial to openly communicate your preferences with the adoption professional to ensure the best match. By approaching this decision with an open mind and collaborating with an adoption professional, you can work together to find the ideal family for your child.

Looking for more support in choosing the perfect adoptive family for your child? Reach out to NCHS’ Pregnancy Services today! Our team is here to guide and assist you through this important decision.